Don’t just sit and wait for other members to
send you a message. Making the first move will show you are keen
and interesting and will improve your chances considerably.
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Make sure your profile is correct and your description
is accurate and sounds genuine, sincere and interesting. Read
it back and put yourself in the shoes of the person who will
be reading it. Ask yourself, would you want to meet you?
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Before sending your e-mails spend some time writing your e-mail.
Look at what you have written and ask yourself whether you would want to
reply to it if you had received it.
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Always arrange meetings in public places, never
in your own home. Do not reveal your full name, address or home
telephone number until you are sure that you wish to continue
with the relationship.
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Trust your instincts, don't meet again if you
have doubts. On your first meeting, make your own way to and
from the venue. Leave details of your meeting with family or
friends when meeting for the first time.
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If you feel uncomfortable about going on that
first date, you could arrange a ‘double date’ by placing an ad
with a friend. As well as being fun, you can get support from
someone else and you can exchange ideas on picking a venue.
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To avoid appearing obvious, try asking your
date to wear something distinctive, or arrange to meet in a specific
spot. That way you will recognise them immediately.
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Wear something you feel comfortable in, but
make an effort and dress for the occasion.
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Agree to go Dutch beforehand to avoid awkward situations
at the end of your first date. A coffee or a drink rather than dinner could
a good way to meet someone. Also, consider a meeting at lunchtime rather
than the evening.
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Treat people with respect - if you need to cancel
a date for whatever reason, let the person know.
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Avoid talking about yourself too much and ask
questions. Make sure you listen attentively making them feel
at ease and that they are the only person in the room.
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Try to establish a common interest early on,
so that you can both talk with equal enthusiasm.
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Be honest as lying will get you nowhere. You
will be found out sooner rather than later.
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Make sure your mobile phone is turned off. Taking
calls and text messages appear rude, because it means your date
has not got your full attention.
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Don't get too drunk. Have a few drinks so you
are sociable and more laid back but do not drink in excess.
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Most importantly, relax, be yourself and follow
the safety tips detailed.
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